Thanks to Tinder, Bumble, and sites, like OkCupid, online dating has never been easier. The internet brings hundreds, thousands, even millions of women directly into your living room, in a matter of speaking, and gives you loads of information about each of them and lets you pick the one you like best to send a message to.But many men have struggled with the proper etiquette when initiating contact online. This article is about the most common pitfalls that men make when online dating.
Read her profile
Number one thing you need to know is that women aren’t stupid. They can tell, when you initiate contact, whether you have read their profile or not. If you send them messages that are merely copied and pasted from a standard message, a woman will be able to detect the spamming practice involved. You may also avoid putting your foot into your mouth by actually reading the thoughts and feelings she has poured into her profile. You don’t want to bad mouth one of her activities or beliefs if it is already spelled out for you on the page.
Be a good listener
A lot of men enter the online dating world with what I like to call the “fantasy football” complex. What I mean by that is that while the important thing when playing in a fantasy league is the player’s stats and you could care less about them as a person, the same simply isn’t true with women. Don’t riddle your messages with questions about a woman’s age, weight, and measurements. This gives them the impression that, just like Tom Brady’s arm, you’re only interested in their “performance.”
On the contrary, play the part of the good listener. Women love a good listener, and it couldn’t be easier than when it is online. You don’t have to sit and listen because the words are right there on the screen for you to reference. Since you followed the advice above and took the time to read her profile, you can combine that knowledge with her messages to impress her with your online listening skills. Being a good listener is as simple as asking her questions about her interests and how they make her feel.
Don’t bother lying in your profile. Just like you don’t appreciate the cougar who puts her age down as 29, a good woman won’t appreciate you putting in your profile that you are 6’0 when you are only 5’5. Not only does it avoid the embarrassment of being caught in your lie, but it also saves the concern that a woman won’t want to get involved with a man who lies from the very beginning of the relationship.
Don’t hound women for pictures. It isn’t going to work. Instead, it seems creepy. If you want more photos of a woman, then your best bet is to offer an exchange. You send her a picture, and she returns the favor. Don’t beg her for nude photos or pictures of her in sexy poses. That’s something a well-established girlfriend does, not a stranger from the internet.
If you sent a woman a message, she will get it. Wait for her to respond at her leisure. If you continue to send her messages, ignoring her wishes, it’s only going to freak her out. This is one of those cases where eight is most certainly not better than one.
If a woman stops talking to you, then you must respect her wishes. Sending her non-stop messages, especially mean ones, will not change her mind. It will only reinforce to her that she made the right decision in ceasing contact. Not to mention, it will probably scare her.
Follow the guide fellas.
This has been a simple outline of very basic etiquette to follow for a better dating experience.